Erin's bedroom has not improved at all. On her birthday 10 days ago I asked her if she would like me to clean and tidy her room, she happily agreed and in fact stood at the door most of the time chatting away without a care in the world. I asked her whether she like the room neat and tidy and clean and she didn't have any real opinion on it. Fast forward about a week and the room looked like it did before I cleaned it and after a couple of pushes I stormed in there and took away her GHD, laptop, and her new Blackberry not realising that her ipod is wi-fi enabled :( so I only removed that 2 days later. All hell broke loose and she was impossible for days on end. The house has been a war zone and totally unpleasant for everyone.
She stormed in from school on Monday and stomped upstairs and came down looking all dolled up and promptly told me she was going out. OMG my heart stopped and I suddenly realised what was really important to me. She was only going out to a friend for a birthday dinner so it was all fine but it certainly got me thinking. She is a 'good' girl, she doesn't smoke, drink, mess around with boys, play truant, she is not particularly cheeky in fact she is generally a happy soul, kind but not always that considerate, helps me only occasionally in the house but is often happy to make a meal or sort out the dogs. So what have I decided??
To give her all her stuff back and allow her to keep her room the way she sees fit after all I have noticed that lots of people don't have houses as clean or tidy as I like to keep mine but I do see some that are are so I am not happy to be considered OTT or compulsive about tidyness - just normal.